Toddler Milestone 9
Toddler Milestone 9
Please see Toddler Milestone 9 at the main Observant Mom website for the very latest about this milestone. Below was recent as of July 18, 2020
Toddler Milestone 9 – Creative, Flexible, On-the-Spot Problem Solving
Starts: 2 Years, 7 Months 3 Weeks
Most Intense: 2 years, 8 months 1 week +/- 1 week
Ends: 2 years, 8 months, 2 weeks
Irritable Period Summary
• Milestones 8 and 9 are so close together as to likely vary and blend for many children as far as when they start. Looking at the behavior is, in my experience, the best indicator to know what milestone you are in. Nine is distinct from eight. Eight is marked by defiance all day long. Nine is marked by confusion and paralysis to solve problems
• Becomes confused and indecisive, whereas not long ago they were confident and certain. They might ask you to take a walk and then can’t make up their mind about which way to go.
• Refuses to move to solve a very simple problem, e.g., a toy, cup, or food is a few feet away but the child won’t get it but instead will cry for it, as if paralyzed to do it
• Wants to have the toys other children have. I believe this stems from a feeling of indecisiveness over what is the very best toy and seeing a child with a different toy makes them feel the other toy is better
• Shows regret over the solution they originally picked, e.g., agrees that one solution is OK, such as dad can turn the light off, but they have a change of mind (and gets upset) a few seconds or minutes later when they seem to realize what is going on, because they wanted to do it
• Seemingly paralyzed to answer a question, e.g., what movie would you like
• Refuses naps, screams about being left alone
• Keeps stalling at bedtime to do “just one more” thing
• Very particular, e.g., out of their entire wardrobe, insists on wearing a particular shirt, dress, or pants (when it may be in the laundry)
• Jealous if their caregiver gives attention to another child or person. They get jealous even if they are in a different room and you are giving attention to another child
• Tries to separate primary caregiver from anyone or anything else that has the child’s attention or who is not the child
• Not as likely to want to be right next to you all day long. However, they hate when you leave the room. If they leave the room on their own, it’s fine. If YOU leave, prepare to be attacked. You may have trouble doing the simplest of things, like going to the bathroom or going into another room to look something up on a computer
• Wants you off and on, but now typically wants something specific and then lets you be again
• Drools a lot, puts their hand in their mouth (all 20 of their baby teeth should be in by now)
• Asks to cuddle (some of the behaviors are cute!)
Most Intense Period
• Jealous, demanding, won’t let you freely move, in seeming disbelief of what is going on, paralyzed to act, irritated and sad for seeming no reason, needs extra comfort
New Abilities Summary
• Right away starts with an incredible increase in self-awareness. They might all of a sudden be embarrassed to not have clothes on, as if they understand this custom and their deviance from it. They clearly start to understand when they are near their own house after coming home in a vehicle.
• Also starts off with a noticeable increase in attention span, in which they might commit to a craft or other activity for 45 minutes
• Has an increase in imagination. Now they are likely to apply their imagination to themselves for a prolonged time. They may pretend they are a crane for days on end and they pick things up like a crane every time they go to do that
• Can come up with solutions to new problems that arise, e.g., if they notice it is cloudy, they might get an umbrella
• Color objects properly, e.g., Ariel’s hair red
• Can match a song to what is going on, e.g., sing “Rain, rain, go away” when it is raining
• Can match an etiquette to a social situation. When Dad comes home, they might show them Mom, as if introductions are taking place. Note: It is not a planned thing yet. It is in the moment that they realize this is a thing.
• Can apply a solution at a particular time. For instance, you said they could do X in the morning and they wake up, realize it is morning, and they can do X. However, you can’t yet tell them to do Y at a time (e.g., “tell daddy Y when he gets home”). It’s based on what they personally want to do and a seeming in-the-moment recognition of the time.
• Starts to make beginning value judgments like “Butterflies are nice” or “This creation I made is great.” This can also be considered the “what is right or wrong?” milestone
• Before they could apply one solution to one problem. Now they can choose a solution from many choices
• Attempts to solve much more complex problems without help, e.g., putting batteries in a remote control
• Likes to challenge themselves with new problems. For instance, they might purposely walk a different way than normal to see if they can find their way home
• Likes complicated problems about 3-D space. Might challenge themselves to fit as many blocks as they can in a particular area, say the bed of a toy dump truck.
• Takes on a complicated challenge such as putting together a Tangram puzzle (will need your help but will be committed to trying to solve it)
• Can correct themselves on the spot better, e.g., they say something wrong and you say it the right way, they say it then the right way
• Can go backwards and forwards in solving problems. They might start to build something and realize they made a mistake a few steps back and go back and fix it
• They talk to themselves as they work through problems, “No, no, that wasn’t right.”
• Builds much more elaborate constructions, such as making Thomas the Train, with a funnel, whistle, and cab, out of blocks or makes very long, elaborate train tracks that get bigger and different every day
• Clever solutions to problems, such as building a bridge over something that has a gap or bump (if building with say train tracks or other materials)
• Make up a play about someone helping someone else
• Says, “I don’t know”
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