Toddler Milestone 6

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Toddler Milestone 6[edit]

Please see Toddler Milestone 6 at the main Observant Mom website for the very latest about this milestone. Below was recent as of July 18, 2020

Toddler Milestone 6 – Deliberate and Intelligent Decision Making
Starts: 2 years, 1 month, 2 weeks
Most Intense: 2 years, 1 month, 3 weeks until 2 years, 2 months, 1 week
Ends: 2 years, 3 months
Irritable Period Summary
• At first, just wants to be held, cuddled, or picked up a lot. Some children show more dramatic behaviors (listed below) and some show much more mild behaviors, such as simply wanting held more or getting sick easier throughout the irritable period. An increase in abilities and head circumference may be noticed regardless of showing only mild irritable behaviors
• Shows disappointment in however they do: maybe dramatic slumped shoulders or full on meltdowns. This milestone really depends on the child. The following are but some behavior you MIGHT see.
• Cries for seemingly no reason
• Asks for help
• Bossy, e.g., about where you are allowed to sit
• Picky and stubborn, e.g., might only wear one style of shirt, won’t let you put on their pants (they likely want to pick what pants they wear in this situation), or insist you fill up their cup to a certain level with liquid
• Shows regret over past decisions, e.g., chose one pair of shoes then wants a different one while out
• Plays jokes, e.g., hides things from you on purpose or hides themselves
• Sleep disruptions
• Clumsy
• Show fear (comes on suddenly and over specific things somewhere between 2 years 1 month and 2 years, 3 months)
• Confusion/blending of fake things as real things, such as thinking fake food is real food or something on the TV is real such as a ball that is kicked or hit is behind the TV (more likely near end of milestone)
Most Intense Period
• It varies from a child who just wants to snuggle a lot, gets sick more easily, or who does all of the bossy, stubborn behaviors listed above but more intensely with full meltdowns. This one may dissipate around 2 years, 2 months, 2 weeks or greatly break up but still somewhat continue until 2 years, 3 months
New Abilities Summary
• Noticeable increase in head circumference and change in head shape some time during the milestone (may vary for each child across the whole milestone) and an increase in how long their tongue is
• Understands not just that symbols are symbols but that they have meaning. For instance, may show that they understand that a strawberry on a cup of yogurt means it’s strawberry and a blueberry means it’s something different. This understanding may be why they are so picky and demanding; they sincerely think different color cups, e.g., a blue versus yellow cup, do different things (and they are sometimes right!)
• Other examples of understanding the meaning of symbols: may ascribe a triangle as meaning mountain
• Further understanding symbols: can for instance understand that the sound of “a” is the first sound in “apple”
• Can intelligently alter their course if one way isn’t working, such as looking a different way in a book to look for a picture or uses a different or better word when they see you aren’t communicating together well
• Can make a choice after someone asks a question about something that is not part of their normal routine, e.g., on the spot you ask them when they are defiant, “Do you want to walk up the stairs or be carried?” and they make their choice
• Decisive about many things relating to their life, e.g., how their hair is worn, what they play with, or where they sit at the dinner table
• Very deliberate in how they behave. They may see their siblings play rock, paper, scissor and they put their hand in the shape to play or deliberately pretend to be like their sibling and put themselves to bed the way their siblings do
• Very deliberate and particular about what they want, e.g., what movie to watch or how high the liquid in their cup must be filled
• The start of “blending” fantasy and reality. For instance, they might “scrape” some of mommy’s face and start “sprinkling” it around. This may be a bridge to the next milestone, in which they are much more highly creative
• Compares many things, e.g., big and small (especially of how they are small compared to a big adult), or loud and quiet
• Loves lining things up big to small
• Loves sorting shapes and colors
• Loves to be asked questions so they can show off their knowledge. Non-verbal children can still do this by pointing
• Initiates conversations and activities a lot more
• Initiate jokes and games with others, such as waiting for you to come in the room then scaring you
• Makes up their own song
• May playfully hit as a way to get their own way
• Increasing attention span (as found in also in Toddler Milestone 5)

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